The most powerful spiritual transformation

The most powerful spiritual transformation is unconditional love in a strong friendship, according to Tim Keller (pastor of Redeemer @ NYC).. one has to like and enjoy people to shepherd and lead them as a spiritual leader.. for me, as an advocate of transparent open-book communication, that transparency begets transparency, and builds relationships (and that’s why i have this journal here), here’s some truths that point to the connection between communication and relationships, excerpt from http://com.pp.asu.edu/classes/jerryb/axiomstheorems.html ::

Axioms from Berger and Calabrese (1975). Some explorations in initial interaction and beyond: Toward a developmental theory of interpersonal communication. Human Communication Research, 1, 99-113.

Axiom 1: Given the high level of uncertainty present at the onset of the entry phase, as the amount of verbal communication between strangers increases, the level of uncertainty for each interactant in the relationship will decrease. As uncertainty is further reduced, the amount of verbal communication will increase.

Axiom 2: As nonverbal affiilative expressiveness increases, uncertainty levels will decrease in an initial interaction situation In addition, decreases in uncertainty level will cause increases in nonverbal affiliative expressiveness.

Axiom 3: High levels of uncertainty casue increases in information seeking behavior. As uncertainty levels decline, information seeking behavior decreases.

Axiom 4: High levels of uncertainty in a relationship cause decreases in the intimacy level of communication content. Low levels of uncertainty produce high levels of intimacy.

Axiom 5: High levels of uncertainty produce high rates of reciprocity. Low levels of uncertainty produce low reciprocity rates.

Axiom 6: Similarities between person reduce uncertainty, while dissimilarities produce increases in uncertainty.

Axiom 7: Increases in uncertainty level produce decreases in liking: decreases in uncertainty level produce increases in liking.